The Meaning of Love

As I've talked about before I am in the throws of changing my existence. I am a single person who is attempting to find someone to love and love me unconditionally.

I've been on many dates with many different types of men because you never know who might be the one for you while you've been busy discriminating against someone because they are too tall or too short. Who knows the person actually designed for you? I felt as though it was important to keep my options wide open.

Recently I met someone who said all the right things. They were looking for relationship, not a hookup and not a sex partner. Someone who they could really grow to love and grow old with. This was right up my alley. I felt a connection with this person but still held my guard up. I am no dummy, I know some people will say the right things just to put you in a compromising position. I sought wise counsel from friends and family and really tried to keep my distance while still getting sucked in. It seemed too good to be true.

And it was. This person then started asking for money. Not like $200.00 but more like several thousand dollars. Tears, begging, guilt and harassment were all tools this person used to try and manipulate me into giving them money. But here's the thing... that's not love. Psychology Today, posts "The Greeks had the good sense to break love into four levels: 'storge' was kinship, 'philia' was friendship, 'eros,' sexual and romantic love, and finally divine love was known as 'agape.'" This person claimed both eros and agape love towards me in their talking to me. And while love makes people do stupid things, dangerous things as well as magnanimus and bold things, my momma didn't raise no fool.

My best friend equates love with compassion, admiration, respect and acts of service. Manipulation and harassment has no place in that. So, its block and delete and back to the drawing board. But maybe after a few months time...